It would be better for a couple to separate instead of living together under one roof and sinning by their violence, which will affect and traumatize innocent children. In millions of homes, men and women trapped in marital bonds argue constantly, often in front of their helpless children, who grow up in a confused and violent environment. Often, men turn to other women and give birth to illegitimate children, and then leave their wives and legal children because of lax laws that should have held them accountable. An article titled “Philippines Needs Divorce Law” by Val G. Abelgas states: “It is no coincidence that those pushing for divorce legislation in Congress are women. It is also no coincidence that a large percentage of those in the world who file for divorce are women. It is not difficult to understand that in most failed marriages, it is women who suffer the most – victims of domestic violence and neglected or abandoned by philanthropic or alcoholic husbands. “The last and final argument the researchers want to clarify is the increasing rate of abused wives in the Philippines. The most common violence against women in the Philippines is intimate partner violence – but married women in the Philippines have no way out. Violence can be verbal, physical or psychological.
According to the annual comparative statistics on violence against women (2004 – 2011), wife assault and battery ranks first with 49% of all forms of violence and abuse against women. This is one of the reasons why divorce should be legalized in the Philippines. Today`s women lack self-confidence because they know there are no laws that support them. Couples live together because there is no law that would allow them to separate legally and properly and seek peace and happiness that they could not find in their current partner. Among the opponents of the move is House Deputy Speaker Brother Eddie Villanueva, who said divorce will provide couples with “an expedited path out of marriage” that “will degrade the institution into a simplistic contractual relationship stripped of its pure meaning and requiring sustained commitment. Absolute divorce in society is a sure formula for raising Filipino children without a father and mother. When asked why couples stay in toxic relationships, the most common answer given by women is the best interests of their children. They don`t know that the effects of dysfunctional marriage on children are deeply worrying. Studies show that children who grow up with arguments tend to experience stress, unhappiness and insecurity. With male children, when they see their father regularly show aggressive and controlling treatment towards their mother, they are more likely to engage in this behavior because they think women should be treated this way. Among girls, they are more likely to perceive this aggression as normal and acceptable. As a result, they could enter the same abusive marital lifestyle later in life.
Divorce threatens this foundation, which can lead to the erosion of society. It weakens the bond between the couple, which tends to reduce the chances of coping with the difficulties and difficulties of a married couple. This instability of families can give way to the reorganization and adjustment of family relationships, which can cause psychological problems for children. Children become maladjusted and potentially harmful or destructive adults. Therefore, they assume that divorce will make the value and institution of marriage meaningless. In addition, critics have stated that divorce is unconstitutional. They asserted that the 1987 Philippine Constitution states that “marriage is an inviolable social institution that is the basis of the family and is protected by the State.” Divorce will be a threat to the family, which the Constitution is required to protect as an inviolable institution. In order to allow for divorce, the constitution would first have to be amended. V. The objectives of this research study are to define divorce and its concepts and to better understand the benefits of divorce in legalization in the Philippines.
This paper also seeks to address the issues and arguments raised by Filipinos.